The clash
between creating (birth) and destruction (death) in a single moment – along
with the confusion of no life between these two points can be devastating.
During grieving all kinds of feelings can be experienced. Some of the obvious
feelings are the following - these may be felt in any order:
DEPRESSION
You may not
feel like getting up in the morning. Falling asleep and staying asleep may be
hard, along with strange dreams. Not wanting to eat or socialize.
ANGER
Angry at the
doctors, your partner, yourself, even God. You may ask yourself, “Why me?” “Am
I being punished?”
POWERLESS
You could not
do anything to save your baby.
BLAME
“Why didn’t I
listen.... or do this or do that?” “Why did my body fail me?” Self-blame, or
blaming the hospital staff or your partner.
LOSS
Not only
losing your infant but, also the loss of your expectations and a future
together.
FEAR
Fear that
there is something wrong with you. Fear that if you truly let go and feel your
pain you will explode and go crazy. Fear that if you get pregnant again you
will repeat this terrible experience of loss, pain and suffering.
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